Have you ever seen a frustrated parent to shop with your children? Children look so tired and stressed out, just like mom or dad. What makes some parents suffer through the "terrible twos", while others enjoy the "great twos?" These three simple strategies can be the key to looking to move your child from the terrible terrible.
Key # 1 - Enjoy every moment
We adults are always busy. Rushing off to win the next task, thinking about tomorrow, meetings and deadlines, stressing how much we do and how little time there. Most parents are somewhere else, a lot of time, instead of the here and now. Children do not. They live in the "now" and smell and delight at any time brings them.
When you watch a child at play, they are completely absorbed in the activity at hand. It's like activities. They are at one with the process of it, the flow. They are in essence and consciousness. The complete focus and attention is paid to what they are doing at the moment. They concentrate on what is happening right now, at this time.
Key # 2 - Align with your child's sense of rhythm
Children living in a world of rhythm, what we adults can be called "flow". The flow is basically losing whatever it is that you are doing at the moment. In children, I call this rhythm. They breathe and beyond the moment. They forget about the outside world and completely wrapped up doing what they do, whether it's playing, cleaning, jumping, drawing, painting, etc.
Adults recognize that this is a wonderfully productive zone to be in. In the workplace, much more gets achieved and we feel more fulfilled and happier at the same time. So, try to connect the rhythm of your child's activities. If they move from one activity to another, do not emphasize that the activities did not get finished, just allow yourself to move on the activity of B and enjoy the process.
Key # 3 - Practice Gratitude
When with your child, keep in mind of mentally at least five things you are thankful for the time being. Is it that they are happy while they do what they do? Are you thankful that you have a child? Grateful to have time to spend in this activity? Remember for a very short news May have heard of (right now Japan tsunami comes to mind) and give thanks for blessings in your life you get. Your child is very unique you continue.
as you develop this practice, look at the areas you have marked as "problems" in your child and turn a problem into force. example of this would be "my child has tantrums when he does not get what he wanted." Turning it around would be, "I am grateful that we have a choice and my child is aware of the abundance of choices. I am grateful that my child is independent enough to know what he / she wants. I am grateful to be in a place where these choices can be displayed. "
When you live in the present moment, we allow ourselves to flow with the rhythms as a child, and we are grateful, then, almost magically - that we May be considered a "terrible two"year suddenly becomes quite "great ."
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